Hmm… *long pause* I didn’t realize how loaded this question can be to someone. I learned the hard way from my own experience that this casual greeting could trigger a whole lot of emotions to someone. It certainly did to me.
Unexpected and unfortunate events happened to me and my family one after the other since the beginning of last year, and along the way I lost my health to the point where I couldn’t walk. It all happened pretty quickly – from an active person to bedridden; not only having to deal with physical challenges but also facing mental struggles with myself, having difficulties accepting what has happened to me.
For years if someone said to me “How are you?” I would respond casually – “I am good. How are you?” with smiles on my face. Often it was like an automatic response – as if that’s the only way I knew how to respond to such question. That was no longer the case this time. I found myself struggling how to answer this question… Do I say ok so that I don’t need to explain anything? Should I be honest and say I am going through hell? But then what? It triggered all kind of emotions – sadness, frustrations, anger, feeling so vulnerable and helpless, confused…made me even feel speechless at times, simply not knowing what to say. With all these overwhelming emotions, I started shutting down and isolating myself more and more to avoid any kind of interaction.
But lately, I started feeling better and the feeling of wanting to respond came back. I wanted to respond and say thank you, thanks for just thinking of me and saying “Hello!”, and asking me how I am doing. I realized that my physical and mental struggles was overwhelming at times, and this question reminded me of the normalcy I was missing so I chose to flight and that’s what I did. However, it did also reminded me that you are there and show that you do care when I was feeling most vulnerable and helpless.
It’s been 9 months of countless hours spent in dr appointments and rehab trying to regain my health back. I am still dealing with pains everyday and unsure how long it will take for me to fully recover from this injury, but I want to believe that I am going to be ok. I can walk, able to work and slowly started doing things that I used to enjoy doing, so I know I will be ok.
So, I want to ask you “How are you doing today?” and that I really hope you are in good health and doing ok. If you are struggling, my thoughts are with you and I hope you feel better soon! ❤️🙏
It’s a little late post but an experience I would like to share with you all.
I went to see the performance of Tafelmusik Orchestra (https://www.tafelmusik.org/) for the first time last April at the Toronto Centre for the Arts (http://www.tocentre.com/). Sitting in the front row, I was able to see the Orchestra very closely. Lead Violinist in front playing her own part yet leading the group so gracefully with her small yet purposeful gestures, and subtle eye contacts with the rest of group throughout the entire performance. No words needed…each member was focusing on their part, yet finding quick and right moments to make eye contacts with one another to make sure their beats are on points and synchronized.
That to me was a display of a “team” and what “collaboration” can look like in its finest form. I am sure it’s not something they were able to achieve overnight. However, each member’s effort certainly shined through the music they were creating together. What I heard was not only this beautiful music, I was able to also feel their tremendous energy, passion and pride through their music. And I could see that they were having a great time! It certainly was that kind of team and the spirit that I would love to be a part of and to be able to create in a workplace.
What a pleasant evening it was, I will definitely go see their performance again! I highly recommend you do too. 🙂
I am a complainer.
I don’t have a big dream.
I am unsure what I would like to do with my life.
I don’t have such ambitions or desire to be that “successful” person as how our society defines.
But how I am is what drives me to think hard and creatively to find solutions for my complains, to have an open mind and live life with a glass half full perspective, to try different things to figure out what I like, and to enjoy small things in life every day that matters to me and define success in my own term.
So I don’t think there is anything wrong for being a complainer, or not having a big dream, or not having a clear answer for what I would like to do with my life.
Remember, try not to make hasty judgments based on your own rules and how things appear on surface. When you have an open and curious mind, and try looking at things from different angles, you will always discover new insights and be able to learn different perspectives that you weren’t able to see before.
These are some pictures from my recent trip to Bruges in Belgium. I enjoy traveling. You can see new things, experience different cultures, food, and learn about new way of living and human history that I never knew before. And at the same time, it reminds me how lucky I am to call Toronto home. ❤
I live and breath in diversity.
I respect my surroundings.
I practice minimalistic living.
I provide a place to rest, play and live to those in need.
I clean the air for living.
I cope with challenges that life brings with best of my ability.
I know when to let go things to prepare myself for what’s to come.
I change to grow and mature.
I nurture what’s holding me to stand tall when reaching for the sky.
Who am I…?
My name is Tree.
And I am proud to be part of life on earth.
Leadership is NOT about holding a position with a fancy title in an organization.
Leadership is NOT about being in charge and telling people what to do.
Leadership is NOT about having a loud voice and being right all the time.
Leadership is NOT about finding weakness in others and shifting accountability.
I will call you a leader if you stay relevant to the people you serve and work with, by engaging them regularly, listening and validating their needs carefully and creating a culture of collaboration by working on building trust and respect with everyone involved.
I will call you a leader if you work on empowering employees who have the needs, answers, knowledge and expertise in their field to make the decisions on how to get their job done, and done efficiently to best serve the need of our customers. You believe that best idea must always win regardless of your position, background and experiences.
Watching Sunrise From 92nd floor at Signiel Seoul in October 2018
I was introduced to the terminology back in 2009. The team I was part of adopted agile practices and followed Scrum process for delivering quality web applications. Process made sense and we delivered great results every month (developed and released new production ready functionalities that addressed our clients’ needs). Since then I had countless conversation around “Agile” with many people in various positions and here is my two cents on what “Agile” means to me in a simplest form.
It’s about finding ways to reduce the distance between the point (A) & (B). Along the way we build great relationship by workingcloselytogether towards common goals, and as a result we deliver values to our clients.
Continuous learning and collaboration to find ways to quickly adopt to ever changing environment, and deliver quality results that satisfies our clients’ needs in the shortest time possible.
Make sense? 🙂 What does “Agile” means to you? I would love to hear from you, please leave me your thoughts in comments box below.
We should never be afraid to say “I don’t know” at work. There is no shame in not knowing something since it’s not possible to be an expert at everything and know it all. What matters is one’s honesty and attitude when facing “I don’t know” moments. I believe that we will go far if:
we work on turning “I don’t know” moments into “let’s figure it out” opportunities
we are curious about the unknown and willing to learn new things to find answers
we work together to share knowledge and leverage each others’ strengths
I often value one’s attitude more than their knowledge and skills especially when it comes to team work. I enjoy working with someone who is honest and humble, and confident enough to admit they don’t have all the answers. “I don’t know, but let me see what I can do.“, “I don’t know, but what do you think?” or “I don’t know, but let’s figure it out together.” attitude is what I think is important and I value.
It’s our attitude that matters and can make all the difference.
Think Why first then How I clarify and analyze the cause behind the problems before I start thinking about the solutions. I believe that clearly understanding the problem is the first and most important step in finding the right solution.
Analyze before Act I don’t react to issues. I gather facts, analyze and develop most sensible and appropriate action plan based on analysis, knowledge and experience.
Value Quality than Quantity I value the quality of work more than the volume of work. I want to feel proud in what I do and put my name on, rather than just getting the work done as much as possible.
Own Mistakes and Learn I take responsibilities for my mistakes and learn from it. I don’t just sit back and not bother trying because of fear of making mistakes. Nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. I believe that making mistakes is just part of learning. We will fall in our journey but will get up together much stronger each time.
Think, Plan and Do! I am a thinker and planner but more importantly I am a doer who is ready to get hands dirty and work together with the team to get the job done. I enjoy walking with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the doers and the problem solvers who are honest, open minded and believe in “We are in it together, let’s work together to make it happen!”.
Believe in Simplicity I believe in beauty of simplicity. Breaking down the complexity, making things clear and simple allows us to identify what is necessary and important, and focus our energy on those important things to get the job done.
Build the Trust and Respect I believe that there is no ‘team’ without trust and respect. I work on building trust and respect by being honest, doing my best and listening to others. I believe that collaboration happens naturally when the team build the trust and respect for each other.